Archives for October 2018

Make a Statement With Your Glasses

Those of us that need to wear eyeglasses have so many choices in just this one accessory. Now, usually having choices is a good thing. I say that because many personality types get overwhelmed with too many choices, and when that happens they tend to go basic.

I often ask clients as I do a Closet Detox what made them choose the garment that we are evaluating. The usual response is that they like some features of it but not all; the result is that they change their mind about wearing it. This is because the garment isn’t resonating with them; it’s not aligning with their true self on some level. Here are some of the comments that are shared with me when this same logic is applied to eyewear.

  • “I choose black glasses because black goes with everything and I never know what color I’ll be wearing.”
  • “I picked tortoise to stand out from basic black.”
  • “I decided to play it safe.”
  • “I didn’t know the best color to choose so I defaulted to wire frames.”

Needing to wear prescription glasses is new to me. I’ve been able to get away with “cheaters” for years but now I need bifocals for ease of driving, and seeing in detail is obviously important. Because the cost of prescription eyewear is restrictive for many, they don’t order more than one pair at a time — and making a long-term commitment to one pair is daunting. So many factors play into choice besides color, print, texture. You also must consider shape, weight, comfort … and if you need thicker lenses you might be limited by which frames you can choose.

As you consider the tips below, keep in mind that knowing what your personal POWER COLORS are is key. This is a tool that will save you countless time, energy, and money. Why? Once you know this powerful information, you can apply it to your entire wardrobe, which in turn will make mixing and matching in your closet effortless. This will then lead back to focusing on a color for your eyewear that will play back to everything in your closet. Everything comes full circle.

  • Consider shape and proportion. The lens shape should mimic the natural shape of the eyebrow (except if the frame styling is avant garde like this example). An arched eyebrow is flattered by a complementary arch in the frame/lens top; a straighter brow is complemented by a flatter frame/lens top design.
  • Choose glasses that help create the illusion of an oval face shape. If you have a slim jawline that makes your chin look pointy, avoid aviator styling and frames that are broad at the top. They will make the jaw appear slimmer. Square jawlines are not flattered by a square frame or lens shape. Round faces will only look rounder wearing round shapes. The solution? A frame or lens that is broad at the eyeline, which makes square and round faces appear more oval.
  • Check lens depth. The bottom edge of the frame/lens should end above the flare of the nostril. The “Ideal” nose length is one-third of your face length. If a nose is proportionally shorter in length, choose a shorter frame/lens depth with a flat, higher set or upward arched-style bridge. If the nose is longer, consider a deeper frame/lens with a thicker, lower set or downward-dipping bridge.
  • Show-off your personality. I have an over-sixty friend/client that loves polka dots, so she has polka dot eyewear, but it goes with 80 percent of her wardrobe because her wardrobe reflects who she is. She is fun, outgoing, and spontaneous, so everything she does is truly authentic. Yes, the glasses are black and white with the statement pop. Even if you are in a conservative business, showing a bit of personality and playfulness will be endearing and make you more approachable.
  • Consider tinted lenses. Many people have made their eyewear their trademark. No reason you shouldn’t consider doing this as well. You don’t need to follow the trends – bust out and own it!
  • Don’t be shy. Try on many styles and colors. I find when you first see yourself looking completely different from the norm, it can be scary — most will just stick with what they have always done. But eventually if you follow that reaction, you will be so stuck in a rut and bored by your look.

So how do you know which look is for you?

Solution:

Put your smart phone to work for you! Take a photo of every single pair that you think you kind of like. Then take a day or two or more to keep seeing yourself differently through your photos. Print them and hang up in your closet or office. I find when you begin seeing yourself differently, you become more comfortable taking a step outside of your box.

Life is an adventure — enjoy!

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Polishing Your Networking Image

The results of Google research on communication show that 35 percent of what we communicate is through our visual appearance, 7 percent is verbal with the words we choose, and 58 percent is through our non-verbal communication (as in our body language and facial expressions).

From my years in sales and after attending hundreds of networking events, I have observed a pattern of personality traits. From that, I developed some basic character styles to best demonstrate these communication traits and to help teach a lesson that we can all learn about ourselves and others.

Please keep in mind that we usually have a combination of all these traits and in different intensities. I am, and always will be, a student of life. If you analyze yourself very honestly and realize your intensity level is way too concentrated in any one character, then, of course, you will want to examine that issue and consciously adjust the belief in yourself that causes the behavior.

So what is your intensity and style?

Not sure? Ask those around you. Not everyone will be able to be completely frank with you, but if you are not reaching success or developing relationships from your networking efforts, then you really need to know why. Here are a few styles:

People Watcher/Wall Flower: This is the person who stands off to the side, not really reaching out but watching everyone around her. She is concentrating on every detail of what others are wearing and how they express themselves.

N-E-X-T!: This is the person who is perfectly comfortable walking up to anyone and evaluating whether they are someone with whom he or she can do business. That judgment can occur within 10 to 30 seconds, and if you don’t make the cut, he will always remember you, smile, and call you by name — but won’t stop to chat since he is concentrating on the fresh blood walking in the door. This is the man (or woman) with a plan. Unfortunately this personality usually doesn’t make many deep connections unless he’s in a business relationship.

Drama Queen: She loves to connect people and usually needs to be the most outspoken at the table as she flutters about having a connection to everyone in some way. The Drama Queen is who we go to when we need an introduction or to have our memories freshened about someone. Drama Queens usually look out for the wallflowers and try to push them along into networking. The one thing a DQ needs and expects is to be acknowledged for the connection. If you forget, she will remember, and you may never get another connection. So beware!

Card Pusher: The one goal of this personality type is to put a business card into every hand possible. These people believe that card pushing is the definition of networking and don’t realize it’s more important to make meaningful connections to other persons.

Settled In: She cases the room to find the best seat to fit all her needs; it’s near an escape route and restrooms, has the best view of the speakers, and is one of the first tables to go up to the buffet. She makes room to put her things, sits down, and waits for the show to start. Oh, and lunch, of course! She then greets familiar faces to join her by saying she has saved them a seat and then proceeds to surround herself by people with whom to chat. She’s happy to meet new faces but prefers them at a distance (like across the table, not next to her).

If you have comments about any of these styles or wonder how you fit in, contact me.

ABOUT TRACI MCBRIDE: TRACI IS THE WARDROBE STYLIST AT TEEMCBEE IMAGE CONSULTING. SUBSCRIBE TO HER NEWSLETTER, SCHEDULE A STYLE STRATEGY CALL, OR REQUEST TEE SPEAKS TO INFUSE YOUR ORGANIZATION WITH PASSION AND STYLE.

 

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