Fed Up With Your Look?

Q: It’s been more than a dozen years since I’ve done anything new with my hair or clothes “style,” if that is what I can even call it. I’m wearing pretty much the same thing every day, only in a different color. Basic black, with little splashes of color. I’m bored and stuck. Where do I even begin?

A: Well, please know this: It’s realizing you are bored that is the very first step, so you can check step one off your list.

Next, please don’t compound the situation by “doing” something that causes you to run out and spend. At least not until you have a realistic road map. This should be a plan of self-discovery. Begin by looking at what is going on in all the retail catalogs. Either order them to come to your home or look online. This is the safest place to begin; not in the store, where you might be tempted too soon.

As for hair, maybe it’s time to work with a new hair stylist. I recommend actually setting up a consultation with someone who was referred by a friend whose hair you admire. Have the stylist share what options they see with the type and texture of your hair. Bring photos if you have ideas and want to know if they are feasible styles for you. Develop a relationship before just jumping in with both feet.

  • Identify what you like … and why. Is it the color that you’re drawn to in a garment or the cut?
  • Look at store catalogs that you never have before. You want to step outside of the usual retail.
  • Notice the figures of the models. Is it a similar shape to your own or aren’t you being represented in the catalogs?
  • Decide how you want others to perceive you in all aspects of your life: a polished professional, modern, detail-oriented, relatable, fun, easy-going, or sexy. Now look at those catalogs again while keeping those style words in mind and identify the garments that express that word.
  • Cut out or print photos to attach to a “vision board.” Doing this with clothes, accessories, and shoes will really help you define your personal “signature-style recipe.” You will see colors and patterns begin to emerge. Go for the clothes that make you “feel” good.
  • Get support in understanding your body shape and the styles, shapes, fabrics, and colors that will express your best self.
  • Take the time to plan and clean out your closet. You may find you have a few key pieces that make you feel good and they fit perfectly. Those are the items you may want to build upon with other garments to build a fresh cluster (generally five to 12 items that work into multiple outfits).

Enjoy the process and you will get so much more out of it. If you have an attitude of dread, it won’t turn out well for you. The way you walk through your life will influence everything that happens in your life.

Live out loud!

 

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Hit Your Closet and Rediscover Some Fashion Gems (and Duds)

Don’t invest another buck into this season’s trends until you comb through the trends you had already invested in during all the prior seasons. You do have some gems in there, I just know it. I’ve seen it repeatedly when I’m in closets all over Northeast Ohio.

I recently did a “belt rescue” in North Olmsted. Years of collecting every belt that came with pants, dresses, and a multitude of other garments was causing a storage issue and wasting space. Yes, we pitched many. But we kept even more. Many were of the moment — metallic and leopard — while other belts were classic basics, such as 1-inch brown and black. As we weeded them out, I showed my client exactly how to incorporate these newly found belts into her wardrobe and her freshly updated Signature Style Recipe.

During another Closet Detox, we had a scarf rescue. Again, every scarf that came my client’s way over the years had been stuffed into a drawer and eventually two drawers. She loved them but had no idea how to wear them — until she just gave up and forgot about them.

Funny—she also moved those scarves four times in six years. That is a lot of energy and space to haphazardly waste, don’t you think? So as we dumped them on the bed and went through them one at a time, we were mindful to keep our defined Signature Style Recipe front and center while making decisions. Sentimental reasons, Power Color considerations, flexibility, and making a statement — the piles emerged. Well, the keepers were incorporated into modern reworked outfits.

This same situation plays out in many of my first-time appointments.

Take time to play with your clothes and re-work them to get multiple looks from what you already own. Then create a thoughtful shopping list of a few trends you really admire and that would easily freshen the wardrobe you own. With this system you avoid garment orphans, stop stuffing your closet with discards, and prevent the “I have nothing to wear” syndrome.

Save your $$. Invest wisely. And re-work what you already own.

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Create a Mood With the Colors You Choose

The calendar says it’s spring — and what better time to bring a new dimension and experience to your life than by transforming your closet inside and out with new colors.

Invigorate your outdated suit, shirts, and ties while energizing your networking events with one of the new hot color trends of the season. A fresh blouse or two can instantly change your mood, ambience and energy.

When selecting colors for your wardrobe, it’s imperative to know your Power Colors for your skin tone and what mood you are trying to achieve, how you intend to communicate, and more importantly which colors you really love and feel confident wearing. Color reveals bits and pieces of our personalities. What are you revealing? For thousands of years China, India, and Egypt have studied the philosophies and relationships between color and energy in order to strike a spiritual balance in their lives.

So before you head down to the store, here is some insight into the mood-provoking colors of the rainbow and the energies they emit. Be mindful to always invest wisely and with a plan when it comes to this all important communication tool, your wardrobe.

Red: Dynamic and Bold

Its intensity has a stimulating and exciting effect. A warm and seductive color that exudes power and confidence.

Orange: Social and Fun

An energizing, lively, and invigorating warm color. Evokes enthusiasm, self-confidence, and creativity.

Yellow: Cheerful and Playful

Rejuvenates and stimulates your mind, body, and soul. Sparks imagination and innovation. Epitomizes warmth and an optimistic outlook to the future.

Dark Green: Calm and Reassuring; Bright Green: Youthful and Naïve

A very popular color due in part to its calming and restful affect. Varying shades of green evoke a stable and secure environment. Creates a sense of balance and harmony. A cool nurturing color that promotes healing and re-growth.

Blue: Friendly, Safe, and Secure

Represents communication, reliability, peace, tranquility and truth. An intellectual color that evokes a protective mood. Symbolizes loyalty and control.

Indigo/Violet/Purple: Creative and Unconventional

Color of spirituality and intuition. Defines elegance and refined luxury. Represents a sense of power and royalty. Suggests wealth and sophistication.

Light Pink: Soft and Nurturing; Bright Pink: Confident and assured

In its cool tone it can lower blood pressure and creates a calming tendency. Think of this as bubble gum pink. This is a short-term effect, as the body always strives for “balance.”

On the other end of the scale, the warmer tones instill a calming effect, but when the hue becomes too bold, it is more attractive to men than to women. Consider your audience when you wear pink.

Natural Metals: Warm or Cool

Natural gold and grey are easy on the mind’s eye and soothe the spirit. Gold is warm and best suited for those with warm skin tone, while Silver Grey is suited for those that are cool in skin tone. Get the skin tone wrong and you will look tired, older, and unflattering – especially when worn near the face.

Brown/Chocolate: Solid, Reliable, and Genuine

Brown used in moderation inspires elegance and richness. Incorporating natural materials and elements in any outfit will evoke a more balanced look. Reflects stability and promotes communication.

White: Traditional and Conservative

White represents simplicity, cleanliness, and vibrancy when in perfect balance.

Black: Authoritative

Black is an absorbing color and is best used as a stabilizer and anchor. Too much black can make you seem unapproachable.

Always consider the mood and energy you want to communicate to your audience — then go for it!

Which colors are you drawn to?

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Organizing Makes Life Closetively Wonderful

Q: My husband and I are revamping and organizing our closets. What products or organizing tips would you have for us to save time dressing each day?

 

 

A: What a fun project to do together! I find men and women have very different “styles” in the closet, with how they approach the organizing aspect. You will be better off if you find easy ways to see what you have at a glance, so you rotate and wear everything with few repeats. Google anything having to do with closets and you’ll immediately see many options — so many your head will spin! I tend to keep it simple, and it really isn’t necessary to spend a lot.

Here are a few of my personal favorites:

  • Women tend to have a lot of accessories, such as jewelry and scarves. It’s great to keep them right where we need them, nice and neat.
  • Hanging bars that I found at Ikea can be mounted anywhere, to easily hang necklaces, belts or scarves. I use mine for necklaces — it avoids tangles, and I can see everything I own at a glance.
  • Velvet jewelry display bars for bracelets and shorter necklaces — easy to find at local craft stores, such as Michael’s and Pat Catan’s, for under $25.
  • Valet bar — perfect for men and women. I recently added a few to my closet, and on Sundays I easily pull together all the wardrobe elements for each day’s activities in the upcoming week. Saves time and eliminates dressing frustrations because you can iron everything for the week at once — no more last-minute rushing!
  • Good hangers for each purpose — Well-made wood hangers with a curved shoulder are best for men’s sport coats and suit coats to keep the best shape in the shoulders. Use wood pants hangers that hang pants from the bottom to avoid wrinkling and never hang folded over a hanger, which only creates creases that you just don’t want. I use felt-covered hangers so all my tops, tees and camisoles stay put, and the thinner profile saves space.

Whatever you do, be sure to celebrate each individual’s personality and try not to change everything all at once. Space out the organization features to gently retrain your habits rather than overwhelm from attempting too much at once.

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The Most Telling Opinions About Ourselves Are Our Own

Q: Can you explain the difference between self-esteem, self-image, and body image? I hear these terms used a lot.

 

 

A: Good question and one that helps us really look at and understand more about ourselves. The more we look inside ourselves, the better self-awareness we have, which influences us in very positive ways.

Self-image is how you see yourself in your mind’s eye, and how you believe others see you. It is the image you have when you compare yourself to others and make judgments about your physical looks, your intelligence, and your personality based on how you believe others see you. Your self-image influences every relationship you have, both in your behavior and in how you feel about yourself.

Give some thought to how you both talk to and treat yourself. Do you always put others’ needs above your own? Do you have negative statements about yourself that you repeat over and over?

Self-esteem is all about how you feel about yourself. Self-esteem is dictated by your internal feelings and evaluation of yourself based on your “perceived” self-image. If you are constantly comparing yourself to others and feel like you don’t measure up, your self-esteem suffers.

Body image is:

  • How you think and what you believe about your appearance.
  • How you feel about your body, including height, shape and weight.
  • How you sense and control your body as you move.
  • How you feel in your body, not just about your body.

Body image is how you feel about your body when you look in the mirror or visualize yourself. Do you think your body image is positive, negative or a little of each? What do you think your body language is saying about you right now?

Our self-esteem, self-image, and body image are very closely interrelated and are developed primarily in childhood. All the feedback we received while growing up, both positive and negative, from our parents, teachers and other authority figures, helped create our perspective and beliefs about ourselves. As we walk through our life, we have the ability to change any negative self-images we’ve picked up. Most people never question if the negative beliefs they have picked up are their own or someone else’s, such as a parent or other adult. Many times it is the adult with poor self-esteem that has passed on negative beliefs to children.

With my clients, I work on these personal images — the focus is on loving yourself and coming to terms with your body image.

Ten Tips to Improve Your Self-Image and Self-Esteem:

  1. Journal the things you like about yourself and things others have acknowledged about you.
  2. Further develop your strongest skills, knowledge, and education.
  3. Focus on the present moment and not on your past.
  4. Practice looking into your eyes in a mirror and saying “I love you.”
  5. Replace negative “tapes” in your head with positive, supportive self-talk.
  6. Never compare yourself to others. Accept who you are or make some changes.
  7. Spend time with people who value and respect you.
  8. Make changes in your appearance, wardrobe, hair, body language or behaviors that will improve your self-image.
  9. Dress to emphasize what you like about yourself and your best assets.
  10. Learn to genuinely accept compliments.
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Bury the Hoodies and Bling at Funerals

Q: I have been to several funerals recently that leave me confused about the best way to dress for such events. Can you share some suggestions?

 

 

A: Funerals are one of the significant and emotional life moments. I have to share that during this past year, I attended four wakes and was really shocked at the flip-flops, jeans, hoodies, graphic t-shirts, rhinestone bling on jeans and tops, and athletic shoes. All of these garments are too casual and communicate that you don’t really know any better. The purpose of these events is to honor the deceased and show respect and support to the loved ones left behind. Dress with decorum and ensure that your demeanor shows respect for the event and for yourself.

When it comes to clothing, this is the one situation in which I would consider blending in and being unobtrusive. Keep your clothes simple and avoid too much jewelry, especially if it is jiggling and distracting.

There is no need to only wear black, although from my experience most people have an abundance of black in their closets. Not all black is appropriate; avoid wearing a black cocktail dress or something that is strappy, very short, backless or revealing. Be sure that the fabric isn’t shiny and wedding-like. You might think these are obvious details, but I saw many of these faux pas at recent funerals. Another option in lieu of black would be jewel tones teamed up with the neutrals navy, brown, and grey.

Having your body jiggling in everyone’s face is never a good idea. I’m referring to cleavage, tummies or upper arms. Even in the summer, avoid showing up in a sundress and sandals as if you were on your way to an outdoor concert. All funeral homes are air conditioned, so slip on a summer cardigan to cover your arms, and button up your overexposed skin. Gentlemen can wear a sport coat.

Keep your hair and make-up simple, ladies.

Avoid wearing large patterns. Again, it’s not about you; this event is about honoring someone else. The traditional blazer or jacket with trousers or a skirt and heels will always convey a classic, respectful message. As in every day of your life, having a wardrobe that fits you properly and honors your now body is key. It will take you everywhere you want to go in life.

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The Stone-cold Truth About Winter Coats

Q: Working downtown and having to walk a few blocks after parking, I need a winter coat that keeps me warm but looks good too. What tips should I keep in mind when shopping for a new coat for my professional wardrobe?

 

 

A: Outerwear is a very important investment when living in climates like northeast Ohio. Preparation is key for this season. We need different coats for each level of dress.

As an example, the coat you wear to play in the snow with the kids and shovel the drive would not be the same coat you wear over your professional wardrobe. Right? When I do a Closet Detox with a client, I have them model each coat and tell me when and where they wear it. I look for fit, flattery, purpose, and color.

Yes, a coat needs to fit you properly. I can’t tell you how many times someone has said, “I know you are going to tell me this coat is too big, but it’s warm.” To me, this is an opportunity to donate that coat and find a warm coat with a flattering fit in your power color. If you just can’t let go of the coat, then invest in having it tailored to fit. Another client had a coat that was her mother’s. She really liked the vintage details, so she wasn’t ready to get rid of it. It was expensive to tailor it and reset the shoulders, but now it looks like her coat.

TIPS for being Stylishly Warm and Cozy:

  •  Materials Matter: A wool coat is more versatile and chic than one of a synthetic material, but there are some pluses to manmade materials, like machine washing.
  • Make a Statement with the Details like unique color, trim, belt or welting, buttons or cut, but avoid making more than one statement.
  • Flattery will get you everywhere: Celebrate your now body and avoid an oversized baggy fit. Accent your waist.
  • Buy for more than one reason: for instance, warmth, style, and price. Make the coats work for the real estate space they will consume in your closet by investing the time it takes to get all of those areas covered. If you will be sitting at a bus stop, be mindful of finding a coat that covers your bottom. Consider if you need a hood or a high collar to break the wind. These are details that matter.
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How Can a Man Mask a Big Belly?

Q: What is the best way to handle a large waistline? A lot of men want to know.

 

 

A: I’m so glad to hear from men! Women are always asking these types of questions, so this month I’d like to indulge the men that read this Q&A.

Regardless of your body shape or size — skinny or heavy, tall or short — I highly recommend avoiding baggy clothes to disguise body challenges. The flipside of that coin is to avoid wearing very tight clothes. The better choice is to invest the extra time and expense to buy the right clothes with appropriate tailoring. The best way to complement your body in the most flattering way is to find a tailor that you trust. A talented tailor can tweak suits and jackets to flatter your body type, regardless of your size.

Tips for large waistline or big belly: To camouflage a fuller stomach or waist, invest in lightweight fabrics in darker colors. Avoid tweed, flannel, and other heavy fabrics. Go with light, natural fabrics and dress in darker, muted shades of one color. I’m not suggesting all black all the time either; this isn’t punishment! It’s a flattering way to honor your current body, right now today.

Business casual wear: Opt for an undershirt and tuck it in (remember it’s only a layering piece), then slip on a pullover or sweater. Avoid clothes with texture or large print; think cashmere, half-zipped. The opening of the neckline in a V is slimming and draws the eye up to frame your face. The undershirt will keep your belly in place, and if it’s a “slimmer” type fabric, even better (google “smoother undershirt”). The pullover, along with well-fitting trousers, creates that slimming vertical line. Depending on your coloring, consider charcoal, navy or chocolate in both trousers and cashmere sweater. Long sleeves help create a proportional and pulled together look. Wear your belt at belly button level; wearing it under your belly will only draw attention to it.

Social, casual, or weekend wear: Don’t add bulk. Avoid cargo pants with their big pockets and hoodies with front pouches that add to the visual girth. Do I really need to mention fanny packs? I actually still see people wearing them! Wear sweaters and jackets that hang below your waist , but NOT below your crotch. Find that perfect proportional point for your body. Try wearing jeans and trousers at your hips, not your waist. It feels funny if you are not used to it but give it a chance. Don’t tuck in; wear pullovers instead of button downs to trick the eye. Match the color tone of your top with your belt. The illusion is a longer torso.

Suits: Create a streamlined look by matching the color tones of jacket, pants, and dress shirt. Avoid breaking the look by wearing black trousers with a yellow shirt for example — too much contrast. Avoid cuffed or pleated trousers. Ask your tailor to add an inch to your waist and subtract an inch from your inseam, then your trousers can sit comfortably on your hips, without touching the ground. Refrain from carrying bulky items in your pockets; that is what leather brief cases are for. Stick to a wider tie, never a skinny one, and always be sure it touches your belt. I advise to avoid crew necks and absolutely no turtlenecks. Stick to v-necks and flattering shirt collars with detail and interest like contrasting fabric in your power colors. These draw attention up to your communication center — your face.

One of the best slimming tricks is to wear suits or sports coats. The extra layer is a great camouflage, but more importantly, it’s more elegant and sophisticated. It communicates you are a man of detail and class. By doing so, you will always look better than most men of any size. The goal isn’t to look tall and skinny, instead it is to honor your body and yourself regardless of your size — and that speaks volumes.

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Develop a Signature Style to Meet Your Goals

Q: Would you share some tips for men who want to express what you call “your brand at a glance?”

 

 

A: I’m so glad you asked. First, think about what you want your appearance to express. Research proves that 65 percent of all communication is visual. What are your clothes saying about your personal brand? Developing your signature style requires knowing who you are and what you want others to note about you before you open your mouth.

Here are some tips for women and men: the fit of your clothes will always be No. 1 in my book—regardless of the cost of the item. It is vital that the clothing be tailored to your body, sleeves perfectly hemmed, and the break in your trousers just so. There should be no pulling and tugging at your waist or buttons. Pay attention to proportion – know your body shape and what length of jacket flatters your unique shape.

The cut of each garment should flatter your body shape. For example, wide hips give you the opportunity to put more emphasis on your upper body. Men can widen the lapels; women can add button detailing on jackets or punch up and visually add width with a scarf.

Know how color interacts with your skin tone, especially near your face. Men should pay attention to the color of their shirts, ties, and pocket squares. Women should do the same with collars, jewelry, and scarves. Know what certain colors communicate to others:

  • Red: Action/Angry/Passionate
  • Purple: Creative/Imaginative
  • Blue: Trust/Loyalty/Integrity
  • Green: Balanced/Self-Reliant

Don’t forget the details:

  • Polished and cared-for shoes, leather purse or briefcase.
  • Updated and flattering eye wear.
  • Watches or jewelry that go with the mood of your outfit.
  • Grooming must be top notch, and watch out for overly aggressive scents.
  • Manners and etiquette often have room for improvement; brush up on yours and avoid pointing out others’ faux pas.

Body Language: If you have ever received mixed messages when meeting someone new, it was likely because of a visual mismatch between their body language and facial expressions. Are you dressed confidently, but your stance, handshake, and eye contact are weak? Are you a friendly, open person, but your body language is turning people off before you can share who you are? Do you stand or sit with your arms crossed over your chest? OK, maybe you are always cold, but break that habit. Others may be reading it as either you don’t believe what they are saying, you are judging them, or you are not open-minded. Check your posture too because your clothes will always hang better if you don’t slouch. Good posture communicates confidence. Be thoughtful about how to make others comfortable with you so that they respond as you want them to. Appropriate body language will set you apart from the crowd — as a leader and not one of the sheep. How do you do that?

Utilize an unexpected mix of the classics; use color and layering to show that you are not a rookie but an experienced problem solver. Be mindful of texture, print, and shine as you build your wardrobe. Most people do not go that extra mile to achieve their signature style. Instead, they play it safe, dressing exactly like everyone else. Of course, most men and women need support and direction to pull it off successfully. That is why an image consultant needs to be on your speed dial. Don’t lose an opportunity by blending in with the crowd. Jot down three to five “style words” that you want others to know about you at a glance. For example — polished, knowledgeable, fun, detail-oriented, outgoing, chic, eclectic, classic, sharp, risk-taker, etc. Give some thought to how your clothing choices can visually communicate those style words. Communicating your signature style is about using the tools of color, fabric, cuts, layering, mixing, and matching to create your unique image. This isn’t easy. Since few people are successful at everything, getting help and support will ensure that you invest wisely in your wardrobe. Your image is your brand; nurture and protect it. You will find that it will pay dividends in personal confidence, increased opportunities, deeper relationships, and goals met or exceeded.

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What’s Age Got to Do with It?

BY TRACI MCBRIDE

Q: How can I avoid looking old as I approach my 50th while competing for opportunities against much younger individuals?

A: Ahh, yes, an age-old question (excuse my pun). First, realize that your beliefs and thoughts on any subject will predict the outcome for you. If you believe that 50 is old, then that is what you will communicate visually, verbally, and in your body language. Have you caught yourself saying things like, “I’m feeling old,” “I can’t keep up with these kids,” “it’s a whole new ball game” or perhaps complaining about your aches and pains to colleagues.

First, consider changing your attitude of what old is or what old looks or feels like; then follow these steps.

  • Self-evaluate: How are you communicating your strengths? At 50, that would be your wisdom, skill set, education, experience, and overall confidence.
  • Evolve: Look around and identify individuals that make 50 look good. Not only people you know but also acquaintances and strangers. Keep that visual in your head and not those that haven’t embraced the natural process.
  • Identify: Determine where you need an adjustment. Begin working that muscle by reading books, enewsletters, attending workshops, hiring a coach, etc.
  • Visually: How long has it been since you changed your hair, make-up, eyewear, clothing, colors? When you are dated in any of these categories, that is an indication to others that perhaps your skills or knowledge in your field are out-dated or stale. You will always look fresher and more energized when wearing your power colors near your face. Communicate that you are on top of your game and that you know better by tailoring your clothes to perfection. Invest in garments and fabrics that are the best you can afford. Regardless of your shape or size, if you are wearing the right silhouette for your shape with attention to detail, you will communicate a clear message that others will want to hear.
  • Verbally: What are you saying out loud? Are you using current words and terms? Are you mentoring someone younger or being mentored by someone that is maturing gracefully and that you admire? Be thoughtful of the words you choose. Avoid taking over the whole conversation and allow the other person to finish their thought without one-upping them with your experience with that same situation.
  • Body language: Are you portraying your confidence and expressing yourself openly and with enthusiasm and excitement? When you are passionate about your expertise, do others see that? Of course, being authentic is the key. Adjust your body language while being aware of others. Use the belly button rule: When two people are in a conversation (even briefly) and they stand belly button to belly button, this communicates they are truly interested in hearing each other. If you notice the other person is only slightly turned toward you with most of their body facing away from you, they aren’t truly interested in what you’re saying. Be a sport and let them go. Spend time chatting with those that value face time with you. Knowing when to end a conversation is a skill for you and a gift for others.
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