Archives for July 2016

MIXED MESSAGES: ARE YOU ALIGNING YOUR PRESENCE TO YOUR IMAGE?

by Traci McBride

business-meetingIf you are not getting enough business or being connected to the right people, it could be because you are not creating a “presence” — who you are and what you stand for authentically. Soft skills will support your visual message.

Have you ever received a compliment from someone with a scowl on their face? You get a mixed message. How about when someone stands in front of you saying how much they enjoyed meeting you, yet they keep their hands in their pockets and speak in a monotone voice with no change of expression? Mixed message.

Recently I was at a networking event and one woman stood up to introduce herself as a creative graphic designer. Yet she was dressed in neutral, dated clothing. Mixed message.

What do you want? More friends, more connections, more press, more clients, more credibility, more respect, more love, fun or energy?

What do you want to experience? Better service, deeper connections, joyful experiences, and positive energy?

How do you get all of that? Each of us already has all the tools, yet not all of us know how to use those tools effectively. Harness the power of self-awareness and the power of your wardrobe!

Think about how you walk, talk, and act when you are dressed-up for a special event vs. wearing athletic clothing. Very different experiences, right? Well, between those two scenarios, who is drawn to you personally and professionally will be very different as well.

Your wardrobe influences how you feel and how others perceive you. Being self-aware enough to recognize that and improve it will support you having more of everything you want and the experiences you want in life.

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Dressing for your profession is important and something to keep in mind, but being authentically you, wearing colors and textures and proportions that communicate for you at a glance, is a self-care service you will benefit from 365 days a year. Here are some tips to get you started.

  1. Do an honest evaluation about how you feel in your clothes. A look in the mirror will help you decide if you really are presenting yourself the way you want to.
  2. Ask a few trusted, honest people in your life that will tell you their perspectives.
  3. Spend some time in your closet evaluating your wardrobe. Tap into how you feel as you do this. Are the items well chosen and good quality or mostly bargain discounted quality, dated, and tired items?
  4. Take note of styles, fabrics, and colors that you see others wear or in magazines and online, and journal your thoughts and feelings while doing so. This is a good way to begin to see yourself from a fresh perspective.
  5. Create a style vision board or book online or do it “old school” with cardboard — create your new sense of style. Once you have fleshed out some ideas, take the next step.
  6. Go to the store and try on some of the colors, cuts, and styles you’ve been putting on the style vision board. You don’t have to buy them at that time but just see what you look like in them.
  7. If any of this is overwhelming, call StyledbyTee for a step-by-step style re-boot created just for you. You are never alone in this!
ABOUT TRACI MCBRIDE
Traci McBride is the wardrobe stylist of TeeMcBee Image Consulting and is a longtime supporter of nonprofit Dress for Success-Cleveland. She encourages readers to subscribe to her timely newsletter, schedule a style strategy call, or request Tee Speaks to infuse your staff or organization with a passionate professional punch of style to elevate and benefit everyone. Visit www.STYLEDbyTee.com to connect and be inspired.

HARNESSING YOUR SUPERPOWER

by Traci McBride

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We all have superpowers, yet we don’t always maximize them. Think in terms of your personal image. What sets you apart from the people around you? Do you have great posture, a quick smile, and mindful body language? Perhaps you have impeccable manners or are easily able to build rapport with others.

As I spend time with individuals in their closets or local dressing rooms, I find that many are unaware of their superpower, and when I point out something about them, they are shocked as if they never considered it a plus. Most people, especially women, have difficulty being objective about themselves.

So what is your special superpower? It could be something physical, such as shapely legs, big eyes, a strong jaw line, or some other feature. Play it up — not in an overtly sexy way but with a nice balance to your overall look.

I know several people who have excellent recall of names and details people have shared with them in casual conversations. I’m not good at that at all, and I admire them for that superpower, which motivates me to practice that trait.

Have you ever met someone with whom, for some compelling reason, you want to reveal details that you just wouldn’t normally offer? It’s probably because they have a superpower of a trusting energy.

Think of this: I know a photographer who can easily and quickly coax the best and truest of her muse out of a child or adult. Superpower!

Or an insurance agent that radiates honesty and real knowledge that helps an individual make the best choices to protect their dreams, rather than being a sales person who is selling a product. Superpower!

My superpower is seeing clients’ wardrobes and putting them at ease in the most intimate setting — their closet — while expressing no judgment yet teaching them how to elevate.

How can you harness your superpower while appreciating the superpowers of others? Do you know people who might have the superpowers of compassion, creativity, intuition, bravery or empathy? Some of us are blessed with more of these traits than others. Use them to lift others and make others feel, loved, heard, appreciated, and valued.

I would love to know what you believe is your superpower. Email me at Traci@TeeMcBee.com.

I WANT to know – really!

ABOUT TRACI MCBRIDE
Traci McBride is the wardrobe stylist of TeeMcBee Image Consulting and is a longtime supporter of nonprofit Dress for Success-Cleveland. She encourages readers to subscribe to her timely newsletter, schedule a style strategy call, or request Tee Speaks to infuse your staff or organization with a passionate professional punch of style to elevate and benefit everyone. Visit www.STYLEDbyTee.com to connect and be inspired.

8 WAYS TO TELL IF YOU ARE STUCK IN A STYLE RUT & 8 WAYS TO MOVE OUT OF IT!

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by Traci McBride

8 Ways to Tell If You Are STUCK In a STYLE RUT

  1. Lack of color in your closet. You have 50 shades of grey or black from tees to suits.
  2. You own more yoga pants (women) / athletic pants (men) than you own tailored pants.
  3. Your first thought when dressing is to “be comfortable.”
  4. You never get compliments on your appearance and others ask if you are tired.
  5. You experience no joy or excitement when dressing each day.
  6. You’ve had the same hair style and or make-up for 5+ years.
  7. You decided not to buy new clothes until you reach your ‘goal’ weight 2+ years ago.
  8. Your closet is full, yet you have nothing to wear or you wear the same 20% over and over.

8 Ways to Move OUT Of It!

  1. Color is CONFIDENCE and ENERGY! Learn to harness it and discover your personal POWER COLORS. You will be shocked at the way you feel!
  2. Evaluate your wardrobe and detox your closet from anything that isn’t honoring your NOW body or bringing you joy.
  3. Put a full length mirror where you dress each morning – and use it before, during and after you dress.
  4. Create positive affirmations and hang them up where you will them see each and every day.
  5. Learn your body shape – this alone will save you much time, energy and money.
  6. Create a Style Vision Board. Use magazines, catalogs and your phone to gather visuals of what you would like to move towards in your style.
  7. Change one thing. Many times making one positive change motivates you to continue.
  8. Create a team of advisers. By investing in your team, from an manicurist and hair stylist to personal wardrobe stylist and  image and confidence coach, you can do what you do best – and they will always make sure you look and feel your very best.
ABOUT TRACI MCBRIDE
Traci McBride is the wardrobe stylist of TeeMcBee Image Consulting and is a longtime supporter of nonprofit Dress for Success-Cleveland. She encourages readers to subscribe to her timely newsletter, schedule a style strategy call, or request Tee Speaks to infuse your staff or organization with a passionate professional punch of style to elevate and benefit everyone. Visit www.STYLEDbyTee.com to connect and be inspired.

EYEWEAR: the One Constant

by Traci McBride

Those of us that need to wear eyeglasses have so many choices in just this one accessory.

Now, usually having choices is a good thing.  I say that because many personality types get overwhelmed with too many choices, and when that happens they tend to go basic.

I often ask clients as I do a Closet Detox what made them choose the garment that we are evaluating.  The usual response is that they like some features of it but not all; the result is that they change their mind about wearing it.  This is because the garment isn’t resonating with them; it’s not aligning with their true self on some level.  Here are some of the comments that are shared with me when this same logic is applied to eyewear.

  • “I choose black glasses because black goes with everything and I never know what color I’ll be wearing.”
  • “I picked tortoise to stand out from basic black.”
  • “I decided to play it safe.”
  • “I didn’t know the best color to choose so I defaulted to wire frames.”

Needing to wearing prescription glasses is new to me.   I’ve been able to get away with ‘cheaters’ for years but now I need bifocals for ease of driving, and seeing in detail is obviously important.  Because the cost of prescription eyewear is restrictive for many, they don’t order more than one pair at a time – and making a long-term commitment to one pair is daunting.  So many factors play into choice besides color, print, texture.  You also must consider shape, weight, comfort … and if you need thicker lenses you might be limited by which frames you can choose.

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As you consider the tips below keep in mind that knowing what your personal POWER COLORS are is key. This is a tool that will save you countless time, energy and money.  Why?  One you know this powerful information you can apply it to your entire wardrobe, which in turn will makes mixing and matching in your closet effortless. This will then lead back to focusing on a color for your eyewear that will play back to everything in your closet.  Everything comes full circle.

  1. Consider shape and proportion.The lens shape should mimic the natural shape of the eyebrow (except if the frame styling is avant garde like this example). An arched eyebrow is flattered by a complementary arch in the frame/lens top; a straighter brow is complemented by a flatter frame/lens top design.
  2. Choose glasses that help create the illusion of an oval face shape. If you have a slim jawline that makes your chin look pointy, avoid aviator styling and frames that are broad at the top. They will make the jaw appear slimmer. Square jawlines are not flattered by a square frame or lens shape. Round faces will only look rounder wearing round shapes. The solution? A frame or lens that is broad at the eyeline, which makes square and round faces appear more oval.
  1. Check lens depth. The bottom edge of the frame/lens should end above the flare of the nostril. The “Ideal” nose length is one-third of your face length. If a nose is proportionally shorter in length, choose a shorter frame/lens depth with a flat, higher set or upward arched-style bridge. If the nose is longer, consider a deeper frame/lens with a thicker, lower set or downward-dipping bridge.
  1. Show-off your personality. I have an over 60 friend/client that loves polka dots so she has polka dot eyewear, but it goes with 80% of her wardrobe because her wardrobe reflects who she is. She is fun, outgoing and spontaneous so everything she does is truly authentic.  Yes the glasses are black and white with the statement pop.  Even if you are in a conservative business, showing a bit of personality and playfulness will be endearing and make you more approachable.
  1. Consider tinted lenses. Many people have made their eyewear their trademark.  No reason you shouldn’t consider doing this as well.  You don’t need to follow the trends – bust out and ownit!
  1. Don’t be shy. Try on many styles and colors.  I find when you first see yourself looking completely different from the norm it can be scary – most will just stick with what they have always done.  But eventually if you follow that reaction you will be so stuck in a rut and bored by your look.

So how do you know which look is for you?

Solution:  Put your smart phone to work for you!  Take a photo of every single pair that you think you kind of like.  Then take a day or two or more to keep seeing yourself differently through your photos. Print them and hang up in your closet or office.  I find when you begin seeing yourself differently, you become more comfortable taking a step outside of your box.

ABOUT TRACI MCBRIDE
Traci McBride is the wardrobe stylist of TeeMcBee Image Consulting and is a longtime supporter of nonprofit Dress for Success-Cleveland. She encourages readers to subscribe to her timely newsletter, schedule a style strategy call, or request Tee Speaks to infuse your staff or organization with a passionate professional punch of style to elevate and benefit everyone. Visit www.STYLEDbyTee.com to connect and be inspired.